{"id":1445,"date":"2019-08-25T01:21:15","date_gmt":"2019-08-25T00:21:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/?p=1445"},"modified":"2019-09-05T01:23:55","modified_gmt":"2019-09-05T00:23:55","slug":"eleanor-oliphant-is-completely-fine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/?p=1445","title":{"rendered":"Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman was a lightweight and great reading material to me. Some time ago my mother-in-law suggested this book as one being read by many in London. Public transportation such as the Underground and buses are great places for implicit book popularity ratings. I resisted her suggestion, as my priorities were elsewhere at the time. But at the end of one very intensive week recently, I needed a short break. This book helped me to recuperate. It left a very warm feeling in me, like sitting by an outdoor fireplace in a very cold night, except this warmth burns no wood and causes no air pollution as it rises from the genuine kindness of people around us. It also lent me more faith in our capabilities to move forward in life, despite obstacles and hardships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Eleanor-678x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1453\" width=\"170\" height=\"256\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Eleanor-678x1024.jpg 678w, http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Eleanor-199x300.jpg 199w, http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Eleanor-768x1159.jpg 768w, http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Eleanor.jpg 1696w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 170px) 100vw, 170px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I had similar inspiration after reading <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/?p=1074\">Educated<\/a>. The people and events in this book bear more familiarity to me, from the cultural immersion perspective. Both books managed to build up a formidable quiet strength in me throughout the reading process. It was not a choice. It was passed to me. I am a very grateful and glad recipient of that strength.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A few teasing passages for you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>Although it\u2019s good to try new things and to keep an open mind, it\u2019s also extremely important to stay true to who you really are.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>In the end, what matters is this: I survived.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>These days, loneliness is the new cancer\u2013-a shameful, embarrassing thing, brought upon yourself in some obscure way. A fearful, incurable thing, so horrifying that you dare not mention it; other people don\u2019t want to hear the word spoken aloud for fear that they might too be afflicted, or that it might tempt fate into visiting a similar horror upon them.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>When the silence and the aloneness press down and around me, crushing me, carving through me like ice, I need to speak aloud sometimes, if only for proof of life.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201cHow brave are you prepared to be, Eleanor?\u201d Laura asked. This was the correct question. I am brave. I am brave, courageous, Eleanor Oliphant.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>I allowed my mind to wander. I\u2019ve found this to be a very effective way of passing the time; you take a situation or a person and start to imagine nice things that might happen. You can make anything happen, anything at all, inside a daydream.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>All of the people in the room seemed to take so much for granted: that they would be invited to social events, that they would have friends and family to talk to, that they would fall in love, be loved in return, perhaps create a family of their own.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>Life should be about trying new things, exploring boundaries, I reminded myself.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman was a lightweight and great reading material to me. Some time ago my mother-in-law suggested this book as one being read by many in London. Public transportation such as the Underground and buses are great places for implicit book popularity ratings. I resisted her suggestion, as my &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/?p=1445\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1445","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-books"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paFL7T-nj","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1445","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1445"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1445\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1457,"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1445\/revisions\/1457"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1445"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1445"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.dongpingzhang.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1445"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}